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Do the Work – Are You Meant for Better Things?

| May 30, 2013 | 0 Comments

A while ago at a conference, a man around 40 years of age raised his hand and shared with the audience. “Beau,” he says, “I was meant for more. I’m in a job I don’t like, I fight all the time with my wife, my kids are absolute brats, and I’m 30 pounds overweight. I dread getting out of bed every single day, and so I ask you, how is this a rich life?”

Well, I thanked the gentleman for his candor, because he had the courage to say what a good third of the room was probably thinking. How do you turn things around for yourself? How do you get yourself unstuck, and free yourself from sleepwalking through life? You want to head in the right direction, toward meaningful work, fulfilled relationships – a rich life.

What is the difference maker between those who want these things and those who have them?

I will tell you what I told that room full of people that day. It might not be what you want to hear, but it is what I have found to be true:

We all have to do the work.work life balance

If you’re unhappy with where you are, and with what you have, you have to come up with a strategy or plan, then you have to roll up your sleeves and begin showing up every day, taking the steps that will get you there. Doing the work isn’t the same thing as having a plan, being enthusiastic, or even having a good attitude. Doing the work is work.

There are two mistakes I see people make when it comes to doing the work. The most common is to find comfort in complaining and blaming others. I fell into this trap myself over 10 years ago, when I was coming out of a busted relationship. I started getting together about once a week to meet with a friend who was going through a similar thing. At first it was great having someone to talk to who understood exactly where I was coming from.

But one day a few months later I took a look around and realized I hadn’t gotten anywhere!

All those weeks, all those lunches, and I hadn’t accomplished one single thing. Complaining isn’t the work.

The second mistake is to confuse enthusiasm with the work. Motivation, inspiration and energy are all great things, but they aren’t the same thing as doing the work. There’s a lot of people who are plenty motivated and inspired who never reach their goals. The difference maker is doing the work. Not talking about doing the work, or writing about doing the work.

Having a wealthy, fulfilled life on purpose is not easy. It doesn’t just happen.

It is possible for anyone to achieve the RichLife with the right attitude, contribution, planning, and action. The solution to the two common mistakes I mentioned above are simple, but you have to add the elbow grease.

First: come up with a better plan. If you’re fighting with your spouse, unhappy with your physical health, or your job doesn’t pay the bills, come up with a better plan. Write down the steps. Give yourself specific goals for specific days. For example, “By Monday, April 8, I will have scheduled three job interviews.” Then set about getting those things done. That is the work.

Second: having someone hold you accountable for your actions can be a big help when trying to move forward. If you find you are stuck in complaining mode, take a look at the people you hang out with. Look for the ones who are doing the work, people who are where you someday want to be. My grandmother always used to tell me, “Birds of a feather flock together,” and it’s true, misery does love company. Take a look at your flock. It might be time for an upgrade.

We live surrounded by an entitlement mentality – people who want the goods without doing the work. We want meaningful relationships without investing the time being in the present; we want chiseled abs without working out or eating right; we want money in the bank without mastering basic money principles.

If you know you deserve these things, and can’t figure out why in the world you don’t have them, I invite you to give yourself a challenge.

Neil Young once wrote: “Holding back is so close to stealing.” Don’t hold back. Don’t steal from yourself, or the people you care about. Be bold. Step up. Challenge yourself to imagine your RichLife, then take the challenge and do the work.

What does doing the work mean to you? Who in your life has been your inspiration, your mentor? Drop me a line and share your story. I’d love to hear it!

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Beau Henderson is the author of the upcoming Lessons From Living Rich book. To share your most inspiring Living Rich story, tip, lessons and ideas click here. Thank you!

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Beau Henderson is a financial advisor, author, coach, radio personality, and CEO of RichLife Advisors. He has helped over 3,000 clients to not just improve their relationship with money, but to live the life of their dreams. For more tips on how you can apply the principal of wise stewardship to your everyday life, check out Beau’s newest book, "The RichLife - 10 Investments for True Wealth" at http://www.richlifeadvisors.com/.

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